March 26, 2022
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One year ago tomorrow
Our lives took a horrible change. (header) When I hadn't heard from Carissa we got in the car and it had been so long since I had been to her house I missed the street. Wil just wanted me to go on home, where he is more comfortable. He did not recognize her house or car when I drove up.
The memory is still raw for me. Each Sunday I think back to her visits where we yakked a lot while Wil watched tv. There was no clue anything was wrong. She would show me how her Dexa scan was watching her diabetes. She would talk about work, about politics. She never got to see Mr.Grey as he is not a people cat and heads for his penthouse in the garage. I wonder what she would think now that I got Miss Kitty in the house. I can't remember if she even knew about that little feral.
I sat down day before yesterday to clear out greeting cards I have saved. I couldn't do it, most were from Carissa and some from Scott as well. So I closed the box and moved it to the closet in this room. I'm making room in the other closet for groceries. I can leave none for Wil to see or he will eat them. I got 4 bananas last order, he ate 3 and right after I told him to leave 2. He will take a slice of bread and doesn't make a sandwich. He never tells me he's hungry. Half of that has to be boredom.
I got him to walk with me a couple days ago, not far but he walked. Then another day he went to fill 3 bird baths, only got 2. So later he wanted to go finish and I handed him the recycle basket to dump while out. Apparently he forgot about the bird bath and rolled up the hose and came in.
We got to the VA appointment and the resident asked if he knew why he was there. Mistake, Wil has dementia dum dum. So he asked Wil if he could talk to me. That's no way to evaluate Wil. Wil wanted to go home, were there an hour. Had to wait for Dr. in charge to come talk to me and tell me the social worker should talk to me and arrange any programs they have. If I don't hear from her call her back and she would see what she could do. Haven't done it.
I missed a pain management appointment to find out what the Dexa scan showed and what we could do about my back. Made an appt. in April to see Dr. Martinez the original Dr.
Started PT for my shoulder last week but she worked some on my balance. Which causes more back and leg pain with some of them. sigh..
Need to go see what I can do for supper. Not enough spaghetti noodles for that.
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How’re you, Bonnie? Haven’t heard from you in a long time. Hope you and Will are on the mend.
@fauquet: Glad to see you back Michel. I need to make a post but I have little new to write about.
Very sad memory , Bonnie . I remember too this awful time a year ago.
Both of us are living with our health problems .
Patience is needed with the appropried cares.
Love
Michel
@murisopsis: Glad the SIL got a proper evaluation. Wil is very mild for most of the time. Evenings can be a bit rough some times. Sundowners.
Hi Bonnie. I was just thinking I hadn't come to Xanga in a long time so popped over to catch up. I'm so sorry that this was a tragic memory. I believe that love is one thread that even death can't sever! My sister's MIL is living with them now. They took her to the doctor for a more complete evaluation. My sister's husband had his eyes open - he had thought she was pretty good but now he knows that she can't read, doesn't know what year it is, can't remember his birthday and thinks she is 30 yrs old... Her old doctor in Ohio had her on some medications that were at cross purposes to the meds for memory. That's been sorted but she still gets very agitated at the end of the day. I hope Wil is fairly even tempered. They have the opposite problem with food - she is never hungry and doesn't want to eat. They have to make sure that the foods they make are easy to eat so no steak (she can't manage a fork and knife). She's having lots of soup in a cup and mac and cheese and her favorite PB&J!
CC last night I learned of a book by Patti Davis, "Floating in the Deep End" that I would like to see if our library has it. She is Ronald Regan's daughter who went through Alzheimer's with him.
I join Rosemary in marveling at how much you've goon through in the past year and in how well you have handled it all.
If you find the manual on dementia, there are many of us who would like to read it. In fact, I was just thinking about going to the library to see what is available there.
You are wonderful.
thank you Rosemary. and my back isn't letting up one bit. Last night Wil gave me trouble. Why are my lessons learned the hard way?
Ought to be a manual on dementia.
A sad day indeed a year ago for you Bonnie. You have also had a hard year that followed and yet you carry on. Take care and know there are people that think of you and wish you the best of days..
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