January 25, 2022
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Scare of my life yesterday
Yesterday was Wil's 84th birthday. (wonder why the 4 moved down). One thing I'm learning about dementia they can't really tell you when they don't feel well. He stopped in the middle of the hall on the way to the bathroom, he wouldn't move, bent over some. I figured 'trots' and managed to get him in the bathroom. Instead of sitting down he threw up. Next came the other. I got him an anti diarehhal med and put the tea kettle on. He sat at the desk and looked at his birthday card.
I had to explain to him he couldn't have coffee as I sat the tea cup down. He was trying to lay the half of banana down and couldn't seem to move. I told him to take a sip of tea but had to retrieve it from his hand as he was shaking so bad and he was spilling it. That was hard to do and he started to fall sideways on the office chair. I put the bucket from his feet up and he threw up a bit again. I couldn't get him to sit up and rotated the chair so his side was against the desk as I reached over and dialed 911. I was afraid he was having a stroke. I should not have panic(ed) as by the time they arrived he was sitting up and seemed fine. They checked his blood sugar and it was over 200. I decided he needed to go to the hospital. So off he went.
Kate picked me up and it was around 11 a.m. and we didn't get home until 4 p.m. She stayed in the lobby as only one allowed in the room. I met the Dr. as I got back to the room, she had already evaluated him and told me it wasn't a stroke. I was a bit irritated they hadn't called me back as I had checked in as soon as arriving. She said it was gastritis.
She asked if I would like to talk to a case manager when I told her the problem with the VA and I needed answers from them. That was a mistake as while talking to the case manager I started to cry. Well she thought it was to much stress on me and he should be in a assisted facility for awhile. After she left I quit crying gathered my thoughts and sent word to the doctor I wanted him discharged to home and I will investigate any facility before putting him there. I know the case manager was going to call his VA clinic and Adult Protective to get help for me, but no idea if she did since I didn't follow her suggestion.
Glad I didn't he was fine last night and I got liquids and a couple pieces of toast in him. Lydia brought over some Sprite and another clear liquid drink. I was in to much pain and it was to late in the day for me to go get some and I have 2 prescriptions to pick up.
The hospital was discharging a lot of people yesterday and the nurse dumped him out of the unit and left me to get him into the mens room. Kate told me what door she would be bringing the car to and I forgot her saying they would send someone to get him so I loaded my walker on his lap, told him to pick up his feet and headed down the hall. My left shoulder has not healed since last Sunday when Mr.Grey knocked me down. So now I'm sure another week or two it will continue to bother me.
I have to make an appt. with our primary, required by Medicare. Later, tomorrow we go to the eye doctor.
Comments (12)
@fauquet: I am not able to find small portions. Even chicken packs I have to separate them.
You did the right thing calling 911. An aquaintance's wife experienced a similar episode. She begin vomiting for no apparent reason. He rushed her to the er where she had a stroke shortly there after. At this age anything can happen. With the many covid cases flooding hospitals relatives are turned away and only the patient is admitted. I'm kind of surprised you were allowed in. We have to somehow prepare ourselves mentally for unexpected emergencies. Good job in keeping your wits and handling the situation.
Janine buy small portions of frozen food ' veggy, meat, fish) for thwo personne . She has just to warm .. This is a big enterprise who delibver at you home . We are satisfyed of that and more taste and vitamines are preserved .
@fauquet: Michel we are a city over a million people. He can shower, shave, dress himself nothing for them to do. My problem is cooking when my back is tearing me up and the Meals On Wheels we have been getting are frozen, heating them leaves a lot to be desired. I cancelled them today.
Plus I need to have a source to call if something happens to me.
re:In France, there are carers who come to wash and bring food to old people who want to stay at home. It's precious. Please inquire at your town hall.
Oh, Bonnie...were I to pray, the heavens would crack and the sky, fall down. However, I will send wishes that Wil's birthday had been better for you both. When things are going a little more smoothly, shouldn't we celebrate him, again?
Thank you Rosemary. A young lady from Adult Protective Services was here today and as Wil slept in the rocker we talked. She gave me a phone number of a woman to talk to that cares for Seniors. Hopefully she can shed some light on needed paperwork for some day. Of course money will be discussed.
Bonnie, like others, I so wish we were close by and could help you more. We are with you in thought though. I admire your resourcefulness and remember from years ago what a strong lady you always were. Hugs from Arizona.
CC if you are the praying kind that is a help.
@fauquet: Wil is fine today. Finally let him have a cup of regular coffee. I'm not so sure they hit the right diagnoses.
Adult Protective Services stopped by today. Right now he is fine in my care, she just wanted me to think about a place for both of us and laughed when I said my cat couldn't go. Plus it is full of memories here. Her concern if I ended up breaking the other hip and didn't do as well.
What an emotion, Bonnie !
You are a courageous spouse . Poor Will ; A gastritis is painful and throwing up too !
You amaze me with your energy to face to those difficulties of live .(and your devotion to Will)
With love
MIchel
If only there were something we blog friends could do to help. You are SO strong, handling all that you do. I hope that Wil's gastritis calms down.
I feel for you, and send you hugs (wish I could do more.)
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