June 19, 2021

  • June 19th Saturday thoughts

    Cary picked us up this morning so we could go to the cemetery. Wil was ready and seemed OK with it but not long after we got there he was ready to come home. I had put him to cut some sprouts growing from the crepe myrtle but he started picking up sticks and of course his hand got full. When I tried to point to the trash basket by the road, he couldn't see it apparently. He walked down to the road and laid them by a tree. Seemed all the trash baskets were full today. Plus they left dirt on the 'neighbors' grave from digging Carissa's. I know they left it so as the ground settled they could refill.

    When they inverted the vase on Scott's grave they took the artificial flowers and the insert. They also chipped the base of the vase. Lucky for me I had an extra insert after the time someone stole Scott's flowers along with the insert.  Don't remember how I got it. Without it you can't add water with the flowers easily.

    I want to call Mary next week and see if there is a small marker we could put by the vase with Carissa's name on it. At that time I will ask if they will replace the damaged vase. Yeah sure.  Of course I will suggested they clean up the dry dirt.

    When we got home I showed Cary the two big pictures of Carissa's. Told him he could have them if he wanted them. Also showed in him the box with my journals that we had been talking about. He agreed with Sandy and didn't think I should throw them away.

    While we were visiting Wil was watching his car out front. I thought he was unsettled because the mail box is right close by.  Turns out he thought someone was in the car. He said he saw it go down the street and come back. This is the first time he has 'seen' something that didn't happen. It could of been someone pulled in next door and left.

    So I must start driving myself to the cemetery, but I'm not sure about leaving Wil home alone. That's something concerning me about getting Carissa's car to the dealership. That is a long way away and turning it over and signing the title and getting the money will not be a quick trip.  Alice has been talking to them about coming here. They wanted to know whose name is on the title. I think it would  have to be Carissa's.  She bought the car. Whatever, but I'll know when it gets here. I will lose money if it doesn't come soon as blue book will be changing in a couple weeks.  I want to have Tony drive me to Car Max which is closer and gave us above blue book on Wil's truck.  Problem again who would come stay with Wil?

    When the car is gone I will have to find out when Disabled Vets can do a pick up and get someone to help me bet the items I salvaged from her house.  Then I need to get to the VA and get information about places Wil could go if I die first.  Last will be getting our Will's changed.

    Her house is sold, should close July 6 if not before.

     

Comments (5)

  • Sue, checked their web page. Won't qualify as I can drive and they aren't delivering hot meals now. Plus only twice a week depending where you live.

  • Bonnie, I am sure you could get Meals on Wheels for both you & Wil. I got it for my parents because my dad wanted to try it. It doesn't matter if you can drive or your income. They do ask for a nominal fee for each meal but they also do not charge people who cannot afford it. Check on the internet for an application. I printed application out and mailed it to the local senior center that provided the Meals on Wheels.

  • I just wish I could get Meals On Wheels for him. Since I can drive that probably isn't possible. He's alert enough he wouldn't understand why he was getting a meal and I wouldn't be.

  • I was going to suggest, like Mary, perhaps a respite person to stay with Wil while you do errands or just do things for yourself. If you have an Area Agency on Aging get in touch with them for hopefully some help or suggestions. You are a strong lady Bonnie but you need help at times. Take any that is a available for you.

  • So much to do and think about and yet you have to think for Will 24/7. A friend hired a caregiver to stay with her husband so she could get away for errands. She was exhausted even with the help. She used her husband's pension to pay for the help. Another friend is hoping the VA provides a caregiving service.

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