April 26, 2021

  • Looking around me

    As I sit here, any room, I think. What am I to do with those pictures? The ones Scott drew, the one daddy drew, the ones cousin Lysle drew. What about the one I got for mom that hangs behind the couch, the one Wil got for me when the artist was at the mall?  What about all things sitting on shelves, hanging on walls?  I've no one to leave them too now.

    Then there are the photo boxes. Scott's, ours, a few pictures I found at Carissa's. Do I empty the pictures on my computer?

    Memories attached to just about everything that will mean nothing to any one else.

    A few tears showed up as I talked to Betty today. Dr, had ordered a tranquilizer when I called for it, took one twice none since. I pray for calm as it will not help Wil if I'm on a tears or rant. Last night I got upset when I realized when I handed him the pill container yesterday morning he must of taken AM &PM.  This morning he only took AM.  It is hard to watch close for everything. He will pick up anything and put it in his desk drawer.

    Tomorrow I wait for a phone call from Junk King that they are on their way to Carissa's house. I must not think about the things I didn't have the strength to remove and cart over here to our shed waiting for the Disabled Vets some day.  They say they recycle but I can't see how they separate things.  She said the trucks are divided. There is so much trash that has to go. I knew Carissa was a hoarder but I didn't realize she was messy too. The last Sunday she was here she talked of the things she wanted to do at the house. I've even found her lists. But she never got started. I wonder if I should of pushed her to get help, but I didn't know how bad it was. Once we turned the property over to her we never went back.

    So many questions going through my mind.

     

     

Comments (11)

  • Mary exactly what I'm facing. Now memories from both kids homes/lives are added.

  • My sister never kept anything for long and either gave or threw things away. The saying in our family was, "don't give it to Vicki, she'll get rid of it." Now at 86, she just has basic necessities and I don't know what to do with a house full of momentos. The kids, nieces and nephews don't want them. It's a dilemma.

  • gosh Rosemary I keep forgetting I'm human. :-) Carissa was always giving me cards to lift my morale.

  • Bonnie, tone of voice at times does mean you are human and hurting. The majority of the time all Wil knows is you are there as you have always been taking care of him. Thoughts are with you often during this difficult time.

  • We keep proving that we are human, don't we?

  • CC I have my doubts about my abilities at times. I don't always use a good tone of voice and hate myself when I do that.

  • I keep telling myself that those who leave loads of photos when they die are doing no one any favors. I have masses of photos from both of my own grandmothers and of my mother's. In addition, I have smaller masses of photos from both of Hunky Husband(HH)'s grandmothers and from his parents. I am awash in photos and feel guilty for not wanting to leave the mess to my daughters. I have spent parts of the past 10 years scanning photos and haven't even started on the photos that HH and I took, ourselves.

    Fortunately, with his Alzheimer's, none of it is all that important to HH.

    You are so thoughtful in acting in ways that protect Wil's peace of mind. I wish I were as good with HH. I try, but....

  • Further proof of Bible teachings about things. :-)

  • I know that after my Grandma passed away and just recently, both my parents, most of the home furnishings, including wall pictures were given to Habitat for Humanity or Goodwill. This was only after my siblings took what they wanted. One of the problems is that most people already have their own furnishings, pictures, shelf objects, dishes, etc. that they have purchased over the years and don't need or have room for anything else. I did take the photos that my parent's had in their house but am wondering too, who will want them, other than me. I plan to ask my siblings if any of them want some of them as no one outside the family will want them. I seldom look at the photos I have in my possession but they are there for me when I do want to look at them and remember the good times in the past.

  • FRom my parents I have their photos( not many at this time ) ; But I did not have to face such huge quantity of things like you . And I had large family around.
    I have compassion of you for this cruel dilemna, Bonnie* Can your church help you ?
    Love
    Michel

  • Good question. What do you do with all your treasured possessions?
    Hang on to them for all your life and if you think any church members/ friends might want them write their name and phone number on the back of the pictures. You might also write a small history on the paper you stick to the back.
    It's so hard to think about this stuff. Praying for you.

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