July 24, 2017

  • It's the Simple Things

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    The military pharmacy system requires you to appear in person to validate a new prescription.  New even meaning when your med has no refills.  I was finally able to get Wil organized to go out and do that. He hasn't had his breakfast though and it is 9 a.m.

     

    Tomorrow he has to pick up two refills at the Commissary and that is when we will grocery shop again. If I get the list finished. :-) If I don't we will end up with more stuff.  I will have to go with him, last week he went with the list when he picked up some meds. Problem is he didn't need to get me more instant coffee and he didn't remember the brand of butter. Oh well.

    Worse by next week I have to call in a prescription of mine. You can't call them in early but the bottle is sitting on the table with the two of his empty ones and the one I wrote 'validate' on hoping to avoid confusion.  Here's the simple thing, he kept picking up the bottles as he couldn't remember, "these two you pick up at the Commissary tomorrow, this one you validate today and ignore mine".   You can't imagine how many times I've said that this morning and close in time.  So again I moved mine away from his, put his one with his phone on his desk so when he put his ears in he would be ready to go.

    I also have to repeat myself:  "Have you read the Sports section?"  Only to eventually put it in recycle after it laid there a week.  "Did you dig the hackberry out yet?"  "Where did you put the insurance bill?"  This time he insisted he wanted to read it and it would help if they had only the bill not 3 other sheets inviting you to spend.  Of course his desk is covered with folders of stuff. I couldn't find the bill, he eventually did and handed it to me.  Getting the mail before him is almost an impossibility.

    What is so frustrating is the fact he realizes his memory isn't right but he doesn't understand why and there are times he doesn't believe me.  He didn't remember being there when Tony picked up the have a heart trap, he didn't believe me when I told him he had to show Tony how to set it.  It's the simple things.  He didn't believe me when I said he hadn't filled the bird baths one night. "Well why didn't you remind me?"  I told him it got dark. But as he sat he said "oh that's right I did the front yard".   That he did but it was so hot he was going to wait til later.

    I get frustrated with myself when I get irritable. I have to learn how not to do that and it is so hard when so much of the time he seems so normal and I should chalk it up to what is happening to him.

    Oops the birds are awake, gotta go feed them and Wil just called he will gas the car up on the way home.  See what I mean...normal....this time. (yes I notice mornings are slow times, so is late afternoon).

Comments (5)

  • Indeed Mary, it has been 'one day at a time' since Scott died, but I have to keep reminding myself.

  • My husband's memory is also starting to fade, and it is the simple things that I have to remind him over an over and he still forgets. Plus he's hard of hearing which makes it twice as bad. He just got new hearing aids and was hearing great, but he had the ear doctor do something to them, muffle out background noise or something and now it' back to repeating myself or talking really super loud. As hard as it is, I try and stay patient and think how hard it must be to not hear or to have a memory problem and wonder if it's Alztimers. Can't spell that dang word. Chuck's Mom had this and I know he wonders if maybe he's getting it. But after 57 years of togetherness I'm just thankful I still have him here with me. So many of my friends and neighbors are without their spouse. All we can do Bonnie....is take it one day at a time :)

  • Eventually Maggie but not at the moment. Unless it is someone to come clean and dust. :-)

  • Bless you Bonnie--sounds like you got your hands full--and it doesn't get any better--believe me. You will have to get some help in there.You cant do it on your own !

  • Yeah it's frustrating but you'll adjust. I did when my mother started having her memory issues. It just becomes the new normal. Hugs, B.

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